Successful Addiction Recovery: Letting Go of Bad Influences
Letting go of bad influences from your past can often be one of the hardest parts of addiction recovery, but staying away from these people is important.
Substance abuse impacts not only the individuals using, but also friends and families. This includes the smallest members of your family – your children. It can be especially difficult for a child to watch their mother or father struggle with an addiction. The constant ups and downs at home can leave children feeling confused and hopeless.
More than 28 million Americans are children of alcoholics. These individuals are more vulnerable to developing an array of emotional and behavioral issues later on in life.
Oftentimes, an unstable environment may lead to other problems in children. For example, growing up in a home with an addicted parent may bring about feelings of shame, guilt and self-blame. While children may be told it’s not their fault, it’s sometimes hard for them to believe or even fully understand.
Once you’ve decided to seek treatment for substance abuse, you should talk to your child about the recovery process. While it’s not an easy conversation to have, it’s a necessary one.
To help your child cope while you’re in recovery, the National Association for Children of Alcoholics developed the “Seven C’s.” This aims to encourage children and recognize that their parent is getting the help they need.
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The “Seven C’s” gives children tips on coping while a parent is in recovery. It states: I didn’t cause it. I can’t cure it. I can’t control it. I can take better care of myself by communicating my feelings, making healthy choices and celebrating me.
Here’s a closer look at each of the “Seven C’s” and how to discuss them with your child:
Your child didn’t cause you to lose control, say mean things or act in an inappropriate manner. It’s important for children to understand that they couldn’t prevent your addiction. How you acted when you were under the influence was not reflective of anything your child said or did.
An addiction is a disease. It doesn’t mean you were a bad person. Explain to your child that recovery takes time and hard work, but it’s helping you become a happier and healthier person. You can go into some detail about treatment, as well as how specialists are there every step of the way.
When you’re sad or upset, your child will do anything possible to make you feel better. However, when it comes to addiction, your child couldn’t control or stop you from abusing substances. Make sure your child understands that they are not the reason why you used a certain substance. Your addiction was not your child’s fault.
Make a list with your child on ways they can take care of themselves. For example, children can stay healthy by eating good foods, brushing their teeth and going to bed on time. Encouraging your child to help take care of their body and overall health instills good habits. Plus, it helps boost their confidence and their outlook on life.
Children may try to hide their feelings or shy away from the topic of addiction when it’s mentioned. Just like adults, children need an outlet where they can express what they think and how they feel. Choose someone trustworthy – a close family member, friend, therapist or teacher – who is willing to talk to them and be a listening ear.
Motivate your child to take care of their mind and body. How they feel inside and out affects their happiness. Let them have fun by playing with friends, going on a bike ride, joining activities at school or spending time outdoors. A healthy body, mind and spirit plays an important role in keeping your child’s mental health in check.
Everyone, including children, deserves to take time out to celebrate themselves. For children, theses triumphs can be related to doing well in school or helping out around the house. Some ideas for celebrating your child may involve letting them watch their favorite TV show or movie, taking them shopping for something they really want or letting them have the sleepover they’ve been begging for.[/list-desc]
As a parent, you play a vital role in talking to your child about the process of your addiction recovery. During your conversation, allow them to speak up and ask questions. Be as open and honest as possible, and make sure they understand that seeking help will enable you to be the best parent possible.
By keeping an open line of communication with your child, you will reassure them and help them feel safe. Find out more about how to discuss your addiction treatment with your child.
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