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Relationship Addiction

Relationship addiction is being addicted to the highs and lows of a relationship to the point where it impacts one's mental and emotional health.

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Relationship Addiction Defined

Relationship addiction is characterized by cravings and a loss of control when it comes to being in a relationship with a specific person. Like love addicts, people with relationship addiction seek feelings of euphoria and gain intense chemical reactions and releases while in pursuit of or in a relationship.

While it is normal to feel longing and as if you cannot deny the love of your life, relationship addiction is characterized by needing a relationship to be happy. This person cannot be alone and can jump in and out of different relationships, regardless of its impact on them. Or they can stay in the same unstable and complicated relationship full of drama, make-up-to-break-up patterns, arguments, and betrayal as opposed to being alone. Oftentimes, trauma begins in childhood or can occur from one’s unhealed relationship history; repressed trauma may have a causal link with relationship addiction. Healthy relationships can be challenging to form and maintain.

Signs Of Relationship Addiction

Initially, relationship addiction can mimic normal relationship behavioral patterns. Becoming infatuated with a partner, craving closeness, craving frequent sex, and feeling out of control emotionally are also normal. Like love and sex addiction, relationship addiction has defining characteristics. For relationship addiction, these include but are not limited to:

  • Major cycles in short timeframes (Making up and breaking up, seeing other people, and getting back together).
  • A dependence on sex to fix the rough elements of the relationship.
  • Not having a life outside of the relationship.
  • Depending on the relationship for a sense of well-being or identity.
  • Justifying emotional, sexual, mental, or physical abuse.
  • Unable to leave the relationship despite red flags.
  • Committing too quickly.
  • Being too needy (cannot be independent in the relationship).
  • Inability to see the partner’s dysfunction and instead blaming themselves.
  • Allowing the partner to return after fights or poor behavior.
  • Feeling exhausted by the frequent highs and lows of the relationship.
  • Relationship obsessiveness.
  • Feeling unloved, resentful, or undesired due to the relationship.
  • Not spending time with loved ones and friends to be in the relationship.
  • Changing one’s self to be in the relationship.
  • Changing one’s habits or behaviors because of the relationship.
  • Feelings of anxiety or depression due to the relationship.
  • Feeling more tired, confused, irritable, or insecure than usual.
  • Using substances to cope with relationship challenges.
  • Binge eating, gambling, or acting compulsively due to relationship challenges.
  • Symptoms of codependency.

In addition to the above traits, someone can experience other addictive qualities that are similar to love addiction and codependency.

Chemicals And Relationship Addiction

People facing relationship addiction are often dependent on the high of falling in love. Elements like hope and wishful thinking, combined with the thrill of the chase or a release of dopamine, may become addictive for some. Cuddling and touching releases the bonding hormone known as oxytocin, which can keep people connected to relationships.

Both of these chemicals can be released in the brain when someone enters into a relationship, especially one with a strong degree of sexual attraction and chemistry. He or she may appear dependent on the relationship, using it to cope with stress, depression, or to fill a void. Similar to codependency and love addiction, relationships can function to provide someone with self-esteem, relieve abandonment issues, and attain self-love. As a result of this need for love, individuals can stay in toxic relationships, maintain relationships with people who abuse substances (playing the enabler), and become emotionally distressed.

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Relationship Addiction And Low Self-Esteem

Addictions usually aren’t simple; oftentimes, there are hidden factors as to why someone struggles with them. For example, codependency — sometimes called the need to please — is characterized by enabling and putting other’s needs before one’s own. As a result, the individual attempts to find self-worth and self-esteem through their relationships. Furthermore, he or she may be afraid of being alone; this can be due to the belief that there is something wrong with them if they’re not partnered up. They may also be attracted to people with addictions or people who are abusive in nature, desperately trying to please them. They may end up cheating if they’re in a relationship that doesn’t provide their needs to avoid breaking up and being alone.

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Relationships And Depression

Once someone has become addicted or depends on something to feel good or to feel normal, he or she can experience withdrawal-like symptoms or even depression. In the case of love addiction, someone who is off and on with another may feel extremely lonely or depressed. The lack of chemicals when apart from their significant other can cause someone to crave them even more. Constantly feeling disappointed or resentful can easily create low moods and impact someone’s self-esteem. In response, someone can develop negative relationship beliefs or increase substance abuse to try and numb the pain.

Ready To Get Help?

If you or a loved one goes from one unhealthy relationship to another and has exhibited one or more of the traits listed above, know you can get help. Facing any addiction is challenging, but it can be done with the right support and medications. Since other problems can exist underneath relationship addiction, it is important to get to the root so that the individual in question can form healthy bonds. Additionally, combining harmful substances with unhealthy relationship patterns will only wreak havoc on mental and emotional health.

Don’t do it alone. Contact a dedicated and informative treatment provider to inquire about treatment methods, counseling services available on-site, healthy relationships one can form in support groups, and around-the-clock care.